Having A Sex Drive While Competing

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Hi Kim,
It is great to be able to ask someone of your status a question. You are definitely someone to be admired, and as the old saying goes: jealousy makes you nasty, because I think deep down many women envy your career.

My question is that I am an actively involved in body building, and as such I have started entering competitions. In the off season, my testosterone levels are in overdrive, and I cant seem to get enough of my wife, but when competing the diet makes me very disinterested in sex. Is there something I can do when dieting to help improve my mood, because I am scared my wife might go looking somewhere else?

Best Regards,
Morné
South Africa

Hi Morne,
Wow this is a really good question. I experienced this while I was getting ready for my contest, and let me tell ya... I'm the type of person who would have sex 5 times a day if I could. I just had to remember that I chose to do this, and it isn't anyone else's fault that I've made this decision. Putting that aside, a suggestion to spice up your sex life would be to go to your local adult book or toy store, and purchase some sex games to make the experience interesting and fun.

Another thing you can try is to have sex during the day so you aren't completely exhausted. I've also noticed that when I'm tired from a contest diet it's because I'm focusing on what I can't have instead of what I'll gain by the experience I've chosen to do.

Sometimes I need to write down all the good things about what I'm doing so I don't just see shit. If you still are having a challenge "getting it up" for your wife, chances are she is feeling unsexy, neglected, and is searching to be nurtured or loved. If you are just too tired to have sex, then stroke her, tickle her back, and tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, and how lucky you are to have someone who is so supportive of your dreams.

If all these suggestions don't work, close your eyes then go to your favorite happy place. I find that if I get myself in the mood mentally 5 minutes prior to me having sex with my man, or anyone else for that matter, that it helps me to get excited a little easier

Just make sure it's dark before they enter the room, simply because the person who is your happy space might not necessarily be your wife.. and that's ok, just don't let her know, and make sure you remember her name ;-)

Hope this helps.
Kim Chambers
KimFlex.com