The Do's and Don'ts to a Better Blow Job
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Note: Choose your partner carefully. Even blow jobs can predispose you to sexually transmitted diseases. You might want to plan a trip to your local testing place to make sure you and your partner are safe before you start having intercourse. I found the best way for me to be spontaneous is to plan. If I plan then there is less chance for regrets the day after.

BLOW JOBS

Men in general love blow jobs, because, let's face it, they love their cocks. They talk to them, stroke them, give them names, worship them, as well as anyone who worships their cock, as much as they do.

The quickest way to make a man feel insecure is to tell him what a little dick he has. Society has placed so much stigma on the male penis. You can't turn on the TV without seeing commercials selling male enhancement pills of one kind or another. As most of you know, I am the Co Host for a little show called "Sex Talk" (which has sold over a billion male enhancement capsules world wide.) The media and internet have made a shit-load of money feeding off of the insecure male - who believes if he does not have a MR ED size penis or bucket full of cum when he ejaculates, he is not a TRUE man.

Most women don't really care about the size of the penis. That doesn't mean we don't like to get fucked by a nice thick juicy cock every so often, but we will gladly turn that in for intimacy for the right guy, any day.

There isn't a better feeling for a man than to know his cock is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen. No man wants a woman who is only going to barely lick his head, or who makes faces and complains while giving him oral pleasure. This will probably make him feel unwanted, and who wants to feel that way? It would be equivalent to a man going down on a woman and making horrible faces, leaving her to wonder what the hell!? Do I smell? Do I taste bad? Why is he making those faces? She might feel a little hesitant to ask him to go down there again, and if he did, she probably wouldn't feel comfortable enough to relax and have an orgasm. Basically, if you're with this type of person, then you should run and find someone who is going to treat you and your body with love.

There are many types of women. One who will worship you, one who will manipulate you because she is not in control of her own insecurities, and one who just wants to suck and fuck you, because she likes the way you look, the way you dance, what kind of car you drive, and this is the kind of girl who did the same thing to weeks ago at some other bar, to somebody else. I don't think she'll be the kind of girl who would consent having a test for std's So if you want to play Russian roulette with your cock go ahead. It's your cock. The more she drinks the dryer her mouth will be, so you might want to carry a bottle of water around so she doesn't sand paper your dick.

One of the most sensitive spots on a males penis is right underneath the head. I call this the Ecstasy spot. This is where most of the nerve endings are. Almost like licking a clit on a woman, if you lick that particular spot, it can drive a man crazy. Especially if you deep throat his penis, and tickle that spot with the back of your throat... They love this!

But woman beware of your fangs. You may not know that you are scraping the shit out of his cock with the back of your teeth, so you might want to practice opening up your throat with a bendable dildo for a little while first. (Note: It is not good to practice on a peeled banana; it could break off into your throat and causing you to choke, and possibly die. An unpeeled banana, just fucking hurts, because it doesn't allow much movement for your throat. Practice fucking the dildo with the back of your throat...

Probably a good idea not to eat anything before, because if you haven't gotten your gag reflexes under control you might throw up all over the place, and that wouldn't be good if you're trying to be sexy.) Anyway, most men love when you fuck their cocks with the back of your throat, because it hits that sensitive spot. Plus when you get your gag reflexes under control you can create extra saliva which causes everything to glide more smoothly, which can lead to a very erotic BJ, especially if the guy likes you to work your hand around the base of his cock while your blowing him.

Before you start, tease him a bit, talk to his cock, stroke it, tell him how beautiful it is and how much you love to pleasure it. They love to hear that, but be truthful. If you don't think he has a beautiful penis then don't tell him it is. Find something you like and emphasize on that. The average guy adores women, they want to pleasure you. Make you feel good, but the moment you try to make him feel
insecure or try to blame him, he will reject you and run the other way.

Every man is different, some like you to blow them without hands, some like you to use one hand, and others like you to use two hands. Usually the smaller men will want you to give them a BJ without hands because they love the look of their penis gliding down your throat, and if your hand is covering a majority of his manhood, then it will only remind him of how small he is.

Guys love to watch you give them head. Some like eye contact, some don't. They feel like your starring at them, making them feel uncomfortable. Communicate and find out which is best for him, even if he doesn't like eye contact, he still may want to watch you. Pull your hair back or move your head to one side so he can admire your work.

Guys you can tell if your getting a good blowjob from somebody truly motivated when you're looking at her brushing her hair out of her face so you can see her mouth on your cock. However, if you have a handful of your woman's hair pushing her mouth down onto your cock with your pillow over your face, you might destroy her incentive, which wouldn't really give your lover encouragement to worship your cock.

Another good technique that guys love is when their cock is all the way down your throat and just when they think it couldn't get any better, you reach out and tongue their balls. By now their thinking Holy Shit! She's got my cock all the way down her throat and she's tonguing my balls.

(Once again make sure you don't scrap him with your teeth.. this could be very painful.) Chances are if he's pulling you away, or making painful faces, he's not enjoying the experience. Might want to practice on your dildo some more.
Make sure this man is not Fucking your face, if you like it it's fine, but if he's taking your head and forcing it onto his cock, it may not be fun for you and cause a negative experience. This is supposed to be fun. If you don't get it right the first time that's OK... Communicate and ask questions. Is this good? Hows this? Do you like this, or how bout when I do this? Is there anything I am not doing that you would like? Your cock is so beautiful! I love stroking it! I love fucking it with my mouth! Wow! you taste so good!... fuck that feels so good! Sorry I got a little carried away in the moment. I can't help it though. I love sucking cock, pleasing my partner, and because I don't make him feel bad or focus on how much I don't want to do this, I get to have fun in return, because he wants to make me feel good too.
Back to the stroking. If you aren't at the deep throat level, that's OK. You can use lube to create a gliding motion. Might want to use a KY jelly, it doesn't taste like anything and won't cause you to gag.

Be careful when your stroking his cock. Sometimes you can stroke a little to hard which can pull the pubic hair causing him to have some discomfort. Once again, if your man doesn't shave then communicate and ask if there's anything you can do that you are not. Like I said before, men adore women and do not want to hurt your feelings even if it means they're in agony. Doing already. Most of the time if you don't say anything, they won't either.

One final thought; Don't let one girls opinion fuck up your sex life. I'm not saying cheat, but if you're in a relationship or marriage and your partner doesn't want to give a BJ, then find some common ground you both can enjoy. If she doesn't enjoy anything, then it's time to reevaluate your marital situation and find some kind of solution, IE Divorce or annulment... Maybe some marriage counseling, but in my experience, that never worked.

Take Care,
Kim Chambers
KimFlex.com