Anal Sex
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Dear Kim
I want to have anal sex with my boy friend, but it hurts too bad. Is there anything I can do to make it more enjoyable.
Signed,
Christine

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Hello Christine,
I remember my first anal intrusion, and it wasn't very fun, as a matter of fact it hurt like a mother Fucker. I felt dirty and nasty afterwards, because I had made a mess everywhere. Lucky for me, I got into the adult film industry a little while after that and learned a few tricks of the trade to more satisfying, even pleasurable, anal sex.

Here are a few tips to try before he plunges in:

First, and most important to remember. The muscles in the sphincter are designed for exit only, so be gentle with your self, and start slow. I would suggest going to your favorite Adult Book or Toy store, and find a couple different size dildos, preferably small to start. (Phallix are my favorite, because you can either freeze or put them into the microwave, which sometimes can make it more enjoyable for your anal easing pleasure).

Pick up some Anal Ease lubricant. Anal ease is a lubricant with a numbing agent to help deaden that area, but beware guys it can also numb your rock hard boner, making it, well, not so rock hard. Might want to use a condom, which is good anyway, because HIV is contracted a majority of the time through anal sex.

Next I would suggest going to your local pharmacy and picking up an enema or two. It helps to clear out that area so your not shoving in more than you can chew, and nobody likes anyone who is full of shit, or wants to fuck a shit ball,
so my suggestion is to do an enema and clean your self out about an hour before anal sex, and..oh yeah, probably not a good idea to eat anything until after the big event. You'll also burn more calories that way, because your body

Now it's time for you to start the process. You should take a good week and get to know that part of your body. I did this alone, because then I didn't feel any pressure to accommodate anyone, but myself. And I knew that if it was too big, then I could stop at anytime, it also allowed me to know my limitations of what my ass could handle without the pressure of trying to please anyone else, or getting my partner too excited, not being able to stop. I suggest starting with your smallest Phallix and working your way to the desired size.

Now you should be planning what sexual positions seems to be the most comfortable. Doggy is a good one for the guys, but might not feel so good for you. I tend to like the missionary position, because it allows me to relax while my partner is sticking it in. Another good position that would be comfortable is ****"Cowgirl" ***(that is when you are on top), because it allows you to have control over how much movement you make.

It's your big day... You've prepared yourself for this a while now. You've taken a shower, and cleaned out your cavities, your fresh, and now you feel your ready, but you're still a little nervous. It's probably a good idea to do this in an area where you feel relaxed and can take your time, light some candles, play your favorite music, and have a glass of wine or two, if your diet allows it, or just get stoned ;-)

So now your partner is sticking it in, and you think to yourself, or maybe you yell out load. Holy Fuck... It still hurts. Don't panic.... remember to breath. Breathing relaxes the body, and eventually the pain will subside, and you will begin to have fun and over time, it will start to become enjoyable. I actually began to have orgasms just by anal sex. Which I never thought possible.

Anyway Wanna Be. I hope this helps. Remember this is supposed to be fun. Relax, enjoy, and most importantly, be safe!
Kim Chambers
KimFlex.com